Down to Earth Dave’s Post of the Day–May 9

Salutations, Gentle Reader,

Alas, the Post of the Day has been sporadic lately!  Please accept my apologies and my pledge to return to regular posts as soon as possible.  As I was riding the D-Train down to Herald Square this morning, I saw three people in particular work their way onto the train at 145th Street and immediately thought, “Parents are visiting daughter.”  Even with Billie Holiday singing into my ears, I could hear enough of their conversation to confirm my suspicion.  The daughter was en route to work, and the ol’ P & M were en route to a day out and about Gotham.  Their daughter, like me, has come to NYC to be who she can be here.  For seven and a half years, I’ve been able to actually call New York home, and I don’t know that I’ll ever be able to fully explain its draw.  I do know this:  I am merely one of legions of people who have come to New York in search of…

I’ll allow you to end that last sentence.

Gentle Reader, in my mind I know that I’ll always be a New Yorker.  Recently, I shared with you the struggle I’m having about remaining here or returning to NC.  Interestingly, my family (including my ex-wife) have been the ones to say, “Come back.”  None of my friends have said that.  My friends, including the ones in NC, have all advised staying here.  Maybe they “get” the truth of the first sentence of my professional bio:

When Milton Glaser designed the iconic I Love NY logo and ad campaign in 1977, he likely was unaware that he was capturing David “David!” Webb’s feelings, but he was. Image

Sometimes, I wish I didn’t love NY so much.  In ways, life would likely be easier, but perhaps the apostle John had it right. As he was imprisoned on Patmos, he wrote of how restriction leads to freedom for the dedicated heart, mind, and soul.  What I find in NYC is the simultaneous union of challenge and freedom, of responsibility and bon vivance, of distinguished culture and sheer bohemianism.

Gentle Reader, I’m at this point:  I’ve told my family that I’m not ready to choose between staying here or returning to NC.  I’ve moved my deadline to make my choice from May to June.  Am I delaying the inevitable?  I don’t think so.  I’ve been tapped by my leaders at work to become a designated recruiter for the firm.  I’ve begun dedicating more time to St. Luke’s, as it is in a period of transition in its parish administrator’s position.  I’ve begun a specific program for personal growth.  I continue to meet new people of intrigue.  (May I confess that I had quite the ego boost Wednesday evening at Sommerlyn’s client & partner appreciation wine tasting?  A very dapper agent from another brokerage approached and reminded me that we had met early last summer, when I brought a client to an apartment he had listed.  I apologized for not recalling his name and complimented him on his own ability to recall.  He smiled and said, “You’re quite a memorable person, David!.”  Hmmmm, There’s a potential friendship and…    Again, I’ll let you finish that last sentence!)

Gentle Reader, I’m going to close today’s post with a poem (or two), a link to the immortal Bobby Short singing at the Carlyle Hotel, offering his rendition of one of his signature songs:  “I Happen to Like New York“, and my own Doppelganger, Billy Joel singing “New York State of Mind“.

Lunch Hour in New York

Trees, each with a shape,

However seldom noticed and related

To other shapes,

But there,

Sway in the wind

In Uptown Central Park

In early afternoon

In bright July.

Grass, green, with a fragrance,

With a softness,

Moves a little

And people are there on it or on benches.

It is lunch hour in New York;

The milk from containers, cool, is drunk,

The sandwiches and fruit are eaten;

The inertia feeling,

The full feeling, comes over the people

And they sit around and walk around

And lie around,

Their shapes in their clothing containing

Meaning in middle afternoon

In bright July.

Louis Dienes

Mannahatta

I WAS asking for something specific and perfect for my city,

Whereupon, lo! upsprang the aboriginal name!

Now I see what there is in a name, a word, liquid, sane, unruly, musical, self-sufficient;

I see that the word of my city is that word up there,

Because I see that word nested in nests of water-bays, superb, with tall and wonderful spires,           5

Rich, hemm’d thick all around with sailships and steamships—an island sixteen miles long, solid-founded,

Numberless crowded streets—high growths of iron, slender, strong, light, splendidly uprising toward clear skies;

Tide swift and ample, well-loved by me, toward sundown,

The flowing sea-currents, the little islands, larger adjoining islands, the heights, the villas,

The countless masts, the white shore-steamers, the lighters, the ferry-boats, the black sea-steamers well-model’d;        10

The down-town streets, the jobbers’ houses of business—the houses of business of the ship-merchants, and money-brokers—the river-streets;

Immigrants arriving, fifteen or twenty thousand in a week;

The carts hauling goods—the manly race of drivers of horses—the brown-faced sailors;

The summer air, the bright sun shining, and the sailing clouds aloft;

The winter snows, the sleigh-bells—the broken ice in the river, passing along, up or down, with the flood tide or ebb-tide;                  15

The mechanics of the city, the masters, well-form’d, beautiful-faced, looking you straight in the eyes;

Trottoirs throng’d—vehicles—Broadway—the women—the shops and shows,

The parades, processions, bugles playing, flags flying, drums beating;

A million people—manners free and superb—open voices—hospitality—the most courageous and friendly young men;

The free city! no slaves! no owners of slaves!       20

The beautiful city, the city of hurried and sparkling waters! the city of spires and masts!

The city nested in bays! my city!

The city of such women, I am mad to be with them! I will return after death to be with them!

The city of such young men, I swear I cannot live happy, without I often go talk, walk, eat, drink, sleep, with them!

Walt Whitman

 

Remain calm, and speak well.

Be kind to yourself.  Be kind to the planet and the future.  Cause no suffering.  Go Vegan!

David!

 

 

Down to Earth Dave’s Post of the Day–April 14

Salutations, Gentle Reader,

I hope you had an amazingly wonderful weekend.  As for me, I had occasion to work on some projects in the office, enjoy marvelous weather and a relaxing stroll through Bryant Park while en route to an improv show featuring Emily Battles at the People’s Improv Theatre on E 24th Street.  (A second presentation will be Saturday, April 19 at 6:00.  If you’re in New York, you might consider going to it.  I promise, you’ll have a good laugh!)  Yesterday saw my assisting in the Palm Sunday lilturgy at St. Luke’s, followed up by a little more work in the office, and some consultation time with one of my proteges, as well as a lengthy conversation with another novice here at Sommerlyn who may become one of my proteges.

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ESB at night…April 12, 2014…David!

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Empire State Building…taken from Bryant Park by David!, April 12, 2014

Today’s forecast is for the 70’s, and an evening business appointment will be the crown jewel of the day, as I’m already proclaiming success.  Gentle Reader, I find that life throws me the challenges of achieving and maintaining balance.  It seems as soon as one crucial area of life is in a good place, other elements of living have submerged below that optimal level.  I sense that I am on the cusp of some lonely days and evenings ahead, but I also sense a resolution to enjoy life to its fullest and to be ever reminded that happiness may be influenced by that which lies outside of us, but its genesis and true nurture come from within.  It’s time for the next chapter.

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It may be time for the next chapter in life. “Just when the world seemed like it was ending, the cocoon split, and from it emerged a butterfly.” (Unknown)

It would be a bit of a logical fallacy to connect emotions to logic, but I would hazard that pinning your happiness to someone else is a sort of logical fallacy, which is really my way of saying it’s time for (Il-)Logical Manic Monday!  This week’s logical fallacy:  Fallacy of Propositional Logic, or as I like to put it:  “Conjunction, junction, is your function to proposition me?”

In simple terms, this fallacy occurs when two statements which are each correct are combined to create a statement that is not correct.  Consider this NYC real estate illustration:

There are apartments for rent in the Upper East Side.

There are apartments in walk-up buildings.

Each of those statements is accurate, but if I combine them into a single statement, AKA a truth collective, I could come up with this:  There are rental apartments in the UES, and the apartments are in walk-up buildings.  On the whole, that isn’t true.  Some apartments are in walk-ups, but there are also apartments in luxury buildings.  Even if I had used a different conjunction, the truth collective would still be inaccurate.

I challenge you to consider the metaphor inherent in this logical fallacy:  singular components do not always contribute to the whole.  A bicycle wheel doesn’t work for a car.  A bathing suit doesn’t work for a January jog in Central Park.  A basketball doesn’t work for a football game.   Seek the truth, but see it for its whole, and know that truthful components have a place in their own collective, which will reveal its truthfulness by its seamless qualities.

Remain calm, and speak well.

Be kind to yourself.  Be kind to the planet and the future.  Cause no suffering.  Go Vegan!

David!

Down to Earth Dave’s Post of the Day–March 28

Salutations, Gentle Reader,

Happy Friday! Please note, though, that for the savvy real estate professional, this is the equivalent of Thursday or even Wednesday. With those rare exceptions when I’m visiting my wee one or involved with a seminar, I work weekends. Granted, I may wait until early afternoon on Sundays so as to recharge my spiritual batteries by a leisurely morning with the Pomeranians, a walking meditation in Central Park or along the mighty Hudson’s shore, or a service at St. Luke’s Lutheran Church.

The time I made up my mind that I was certainly going to move to New York was the first weekend of November, 2005. Within a year, I was here! During that visit, I bought some compilation CD’s at the Metropolitan Museum of Art gift shop. The CD’s had classic music with NYC themes. I better understand one of those songs, “Sunday in New York” much better now than I did then.     Sunday parents child

Sundays in New York really are unlike the other days. For people who go to church, it’s because they want to be at church. Bistros and cafés bustle at Sunday brunch, which starts early and lingers late. Parents take children to the playgrounds, the latter creating those temporary relationships in the open-heart manner that only children really achieve. (Bless the child, who is far more capable of living in the present than any adult could hope to do.) Joggers jog. Walkers walk. Readers read. Snoozers snooze. Etc.

Alors, Gentle Reader, I offer you some original poems dedicated to New York, her buildings and people, and her beloved Sundays.

Mimosas are served!
A nosh of fruit and muffins.
More mimosas, please.

brunch at le monde

Laughter. Giggles, snorts.
Full bellied chuckles, snickers.
Happy children play.

Colossus of bones.
Hayden Planetarium.
Teddy on a horse.

Haunting, life-like eyes,
St Joan, defender of faith,
Captured–on canvas.

Candles on altar.
Candlelight in my conscience
Dispelling darkness.

Coffee and The Times
A dab of marmalade winks
French press elixir.

Sunday fun

 

 

 

 

 

Should I ride my bike?
Or catch a flick in Chelsea?
Sunday in New York…

Remain calm, and speak well.
Be kind to yourself. Be kind to the planet and the future. Cause no suffering. Go Vegan!
David!

Down to Earth Dave’s Post of the Day–March 19

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Salutations, Gentle Reader,

Last evening, I enjoyed the opportunity to enjoy an absolutely brilliant piano recital performed by Mr. James Carter Cathcart featuring the work of four composers. In addition to the music, the recital raised over $800 for the soup kitchen operated by St. Luke’s Lutheran Church, which typically feeds more than 400 people each week. On top of that, I was able to spend time with my dear friend Blake.

Hmmmm, how does one describe Blake?  Intelligent and clever. Compassionate and forthright. Overextended and tardy. Definitely tardy. Bless his heart, but Blake just doesn’t get anywhere on time. With others, that would annoy me. With Blake? Meh, it’s just part of who he is.  Image

He’s one of those souls I treasure knowing, someone to whom I’ve laid bare my own soul. He’s in that league with Sharon and Dana and J2. When the concert was over, we skipped the reception and ambled down the block to the House of Brews, nursed a couple of beers, and caught up with one another and what’s going on in our respective lives. It was in that time that I experienced today’s word.

WORD OF THE DAY: GEZELLIG

GEZELLIGcozy, nice, inviting, pleasant; connoting time spent with loved ones after a time of separation, togetherness

Real Estate Connection: Gentle Reader, very few of the words I offer for your consideration are exclusively used within real estate situations, and that is certainly the situation here.  Nevertheless, my business practices lead me to remain aware that I’m not dealing with apartments, condos, townhouses, office suites, etc.  I’m dealing with homes, whether homes for one’s residence or the home of one’s business.  Home should be gezellig.  It should simultaneously offer and create a sense of coziness.  It should be inviting and pleasant.  I find that many of my clients get a little extra gleam in their eyes when we view homes with fireplaces and balconies or terraces, even a Juliet balcony that is no more than 20 square feet.  Working fireplaces, which really aren’t efficient and are messy, are real estate gold in New York City.  Even decorative fireplaces add value to homes.  Why?  Because fireplaces and balconies are gezellig!  Be honest, didn’t you already have an image spring to mind about a cozy low fire and your beverage of choice while close beside a special someone, or one of watching the sun set from your balcony, your feet propped up as you unwind from the labors of your day?  When I work with my clients, part of my responsibility to them is to help them visualize the potential of a space that they can take and make it their own.  I plant seeds.  They nourish them until they blossom.  Ah, the gezellig vision!

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Challenge: Gentle Reader, if I asked you to visualize those times and places that have generated gezellig sensations within you, it would hardly be much of a challenge.  Try this one on for size:  create a place or situation that initiates a sense of gezellig for someone else—and then notice the feelings you have within when they experience it.

Remain calm, and speak well.

Be kind to yourself.  Be kind to the planet and the future.  Cause no suffering.  Go Vegan!

David!

Down to Earth Dave’s Post of the Day–March 5

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Salutations, Gentle Reader,

At this instant, I have a bit of psychological acrobatics going on: I’m simultaneously ruminating the humbling thoughts that, for me, are entwined with Ash Wednesday while listening to the jazzy soundtrack of the original Broadway production of A Chorus Line. The former grounds me and keeps mindful of my interdependence with my fellow travellers on this terrestrial sphere and The Sacred, while the latter invigorates my spirit and gives me the knowledge that I can–and do soar towards the celestial realm each day that I give myself permission to do so. This Yin and Yang, this bittersweet, this indenture of contrasts offers a portion of that balance which I very strongly believe to be the genesis of fulfillment.

Yin-Yang

I will likely go to my church, St. Luke’s Lutheran, Times Square ( ELCA, or the “laid back Lutherans” as I like to say ) at noon and listen to Pastor Schmiege tell me “…and to dust you shall return,” as he peers into my eyes and smudges a sign of the cross on my forehead. And I’ll ponder that centuries spoken phrase and the uncertain certainty nature of physical life. I live!  I dream! I declare! I create! I sing! I dance! I act! I love! I feel! I AM!!

And one day I will die.

“Remember that you are but dust, and to dust you shall return.”

Today’s Word: HUMILITY

HUMILITY: the awareness of one’s limitations, often to the degree that they diminish one’s strengths; the absence or reduced presence of pride

REAL ESTATE CONNECTION:  Did you hear the one about the humble real estate agent?  Neither did I!  I recently spoke up when I overheard a director tell some novices, “When you’re on the phone, talk loud!” Grammatical error aside, I challenged, “No! Don’t do that. Loud is off-putting.” He and I agreed when he changed his advice to be confident. He equates volume with confidence. I don’t. Confidence is the spawn of knowledge, and it doesn’t need to be chained to arrogance, pushiness, or an overall obnoxious manner. Unfortunately, I think many in sales don’t apply this concept in their interactions. Here’s where I contend that humility would serve well, in real estate and other service professions that involve selling. A risk still exists: embracing humility to the point that it either completely incapacitates or actually morphs into its own sense of hubris.  I’ve known people who, in their own way of coping with diminished knowledge or income and rejecting it as a cause for shame (I should note, I do not believe they should feel shame for these things, with a few exceptions), take their condition on as a badge of pride or vanity.  I recall hearing a member of an evangelical / fundamentalist Protestant congregation say, “We don’t need any fancy taught preachers.  The seminary is the cemetery.”  *sigh*

CHALLENGE: Seek balance.

Remain calm, and speak well.

Be kind to yourself.  Be kind to the planet and the future.  Cause no suffering.  Go Vegan!

David!

Down to Earth Dave’s Post of the Day–December 26

Salutations, Gentle Reader,

It’s the second day of Christmas!  What do you expect your true love to bring to you?  If you are one of my gentle readers who observes the Feast of the Nativity, I hope it was the time of joy and light it is intended to be.  Although my daughter was supposed to have been here in New York this week, plans unexpectedly changed and I found myself with unanticipated time on my hands.

I worked with some leads generated through the office, as well as with some of my own newer clients.  December and January are typically slower months in real estate, but there are still a lot of people who need a home or commercial space.  For them, I am available to do some business!

With the time on my hands that would no longer be used with my daughter, I ended up attending three church services in the span of 18 hours.  The first was on the Upper East Side, at the Church of St. Ignatius of Loyola, where a friend’s liturgical / sacred dance troupe, the Omega Dancers added to the liturgy.  It marked the first time I had ever entered the church, which I think was Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis’s church.  St. Ignatius is a beautiful church, and the priest’s homily was succinct yet thought provoking.  He admonished all to release the impediments blocking us from the fullness of the Christmas light.

From 84th & Park, I wended my way south and west, through Central Park, to a Starbucks, through the throngs to see the NYC Christmas tree at Rockefeller Center, and finally across Times Square to my home church, St. Luke’s Lutheran.  While traversing the park, I noted two things:  first, it was cold!  Two, I had never seen Central Park so deserted as it was on Christmas Eve.

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I enjoy attending St. Luke’s.  I humourously but accurately refer to it as an LBL congregation:  Laid Back Lutheran.  Christmas Eve at St. Luke’s is especially warming to me.  The brass ensemble, candles, poinsettias–they all come together to add to the senses of inspiration, comfort and challenge that I find at St. Luke’s.  Our pastor, Paul Schmiege, is not only a genuine man with a very caring heart, he is also one of the best preachers I’ve ever heard on a regular basis..  His words Christmas Eve shared a common theme with the words of St. Ignatius’ priest:  that we are to move beyond those things that block our receipt of light and love.

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Yesterday, I returned to St. Luke’s and served as Pastor Paul’s assistant.  There was no brass ensemble, and the attendance was less, but the warmth of Christmas was still abundant.  From there, it was down to “Curry Hill”, close to an apartment I rented earlier this year on Lexington Ave.  I met my friend Hamilton and shared lunch at Madras Mahal, a vegetarian / vegan buffet.  I love Indian cuisine, but what really made this Christmas special was dining with Hamilton, who shared that his parents had divorced when he was slightly older than my daughter is now.  He gave me insight to what she’s likely thinking, He offered some practical advice on how to approach any legal proceedings that might be on the horizon.  He assured me that my daughter would figure out what all had happened, and that she would know that I made genuine effort to be with her.

Hamilton left after lunch to go to a Christmas party in Astoria with his partner, and I answered a plea from my friend Noah to go see him at the restaurant he was working at.  By the time I arrived, it was busy, the exact contrast of the first hours after opening.  I ended up chatting more with the bartender as I enjoyed an Irish coffee–sans the whipped cream, of course.  Noah and I spoke enough to better settle some plans to go to an art museum tomorrow.  Then it was back home to spend time with my Pomeranians, messenger chat with a mate from Derbyshire, England, pop some corn and unwind watching Notting Hill.

The message I left for my daughter was unanswered.

 I try to keep this blog related to real estate, although I’ll be the first to admit that it’s often tangential at best.

Gentle reader, I generally don’t go over the pedestrian events of my days with you.  I try to keep this blog related to real estate, although I’ll be the first to admit that it’s often tangential at best.  Oh, yes, I did speak with a buyer client while walking through Central Park, and he was impressed that I responded to his request on Christmas Eve.  But you know what, Gentle Reader?  Something inside me was pushing me to share this with you.  I choose to reveal myself to you in various ways.  I recall an earlier blog in which I wrote about the various tags I use to identify myself.  This week, my tag would be a frustrated-lonely-laughing-on-the-outside-hurting-on-the-inside Daddy, Vegan, real estate agent, seeker of love and affection, and Laid Back Lutheran.

That’s who I am in this moment.  Now, if you want unparalled customer service, give me a call.

Remain calm, and speak well.

Be kind to yourself.  Be kind to the planet.  Cause no suffering.  Go Vegan!

David!